I wanted to write about Domestic Violence (DV) as a crime thats increasing its wings with each passing day, but then I thought, the roots are much deeper… And I would rather address an issue, which could be one of the prime causes!
Let us answer a couple of questions first.
- Do illiterate women suffer from DV? YES
- Do educated women suffer from DV? YES
- Do housewives suffer from DV? YES
- Do working women suffer from DV? YES
- Do young women suffer from DV? YES
- Do ageing women suffer from DV? YES
- Do mothers suffer from DV? YES
- Do celebrities suffer from DV? YES
Answers to all the above questions are a resounding YES!
Was going through the case of Shweta Tiwari a couple of days ago. Being famous, beautiful, and the sole bread-earner of the family, did not stop her from being physically abused by her husband, whose sole claim to fame is that he is Shweta’s husband. The fact that she had been suffering this for almost 8 years now, speaks volumes!
Women may reach dreamy heights, explore the world, master the masses, but with-in the confines of their homes, they continue to be treated like slaves! They still enjoy the secondary status in their own homes. Now, we think that things are improving. But, actually they are as bad as ever.
Newspapers daily are rife with news of domestic violence. Very few come out in the open. Most of the women still are afraid of talking about it in the open. They continue to suffer behind closed doors. One possible reason could be the fact that they are afraid to face the reaction of the reaction of the society. So, they keep suffering silently. More than the physical hurt, it is a blow to the dignity and self-esteem that is the most unbearable!
However, it is pretty clear by now, that the social status of a woman has nothing to do with her being abused or not. Famous celebrities like Aishwarya Rai and Zeenat Aman were being physically abused, even by her son in the case of the latter. Even they had trouble accepting it in public, though its pretty widely known by now!
Now, I do not want to sound sexist here by saying that only women suffer from domestic violence… Men also do. Statistics suggest that in the United States, 20 percent of all violent crime experienced by women are cases of intimate partner violence, compared to 3 percent of violent crimes experienced by men. The ratio is going to be further skewed in India.
Now, where does this lead to!? Where does it end!? Will women ever get to live in their own houses, with a sense of security and dignity, with their heads held high!?